Posted on 18.11.2013
The only security is change. We are also very confident that if you are a pairing therapist, you were unaffected, uncomfortable, and disturbed when a combat couple entered your office requiring you to repair the other partner for the better.
Why are we so sure? Because we have been sitting in the therapist's chair for 30 years, and we've been fighting innovations in our own marriage for almost as long.
This video is about real struggles – our own struggles, Pitt and Elin – and the real dynamics of relationships – those in our own and what we see in the practice of couples therapy. There are natural stages in which the couple passes when they try to develop.
Are the transition stages easy? No.
Are couples going through the stages at the same time on the right path? Absolutely not.
When you watch this video, you'll see how to predict and define a pairing change process. The couple may be struggling for chaos or housework or some other banal aspect of their day-to-day relationships. Either the couple can fight for a partner's propensity to passively aggressive behavior or avoid conflicts. One or both may try to change a pattern of deceit or infidelity.
So many of these miserable issues cause so many conflicts that couples remain at certain stages of the process.
But when you know the progress of the stages and what to expect, you can help your couples to see the past obstacles to change and to help them create constructive and productive solutions. They become better partners with each other – with your help.